Your invitation list is one of the single most important element of the wedding planning process but perhaps one of the most difficult ones as well. The team at The Estate has some advice that will help eliminate some of the stress and make it easier to decide who you should share your big day with!

(Photo: Kent Drake Photography, Invitation: Smitten Boutique)

Don’t forget that this is your special day and a once in a lifetime kind of event so it’s important that you are surrounded by people you love and who love you back. It’s also beneficial to take some time to think about who you really want to share such a pivotal moment with and not let outside opinions influence that decision. At the end of the day, this is a personal choice that only you and your fiancé should have the final say on.

You may also find yourself caught in a dilemma when your parents want to invite their friends too (especially if they’re participating financially in the planning of the big day). While it is normal that they have these expectations, your idea of a perfect wedding might not necessarily match theirs so communicating and being honest from the very beginning will help avoid hurt feelings and stressful situations.

As far as etiquette for inviting coworkers goes, it’s important to remember that you don’t have any kind of obligation to invite colleagues. You can if you feel inspired to, but you shouldn’t feel forced into this – and most definitely you shouldn’t feel like it’s mandatory to invite all your co-workers. Understandably, coworkers are often the people you spend the most time with on a day to day basis but they may not always be in your life so if you’re looking for ways to cut back on your invite list, coworkers are normally the area you can scale down on or eliminate entirely.

(Photo: Robb Davidson Photography)

The same goes for friends you haven’t talked to in a long time. You might find yourself taking a trip down memory lane and reflecting on all the moments you’ve shared with old friends and acquaintances. This does not mean, however, that you are under any obligation to invite them unless you truly think you’d look back and regret not having them there.

The simplest test to help you decide who gets and who doesn’t get an invite is to ask yourself if you will genuinely feel upset if a person can’t make it to the wedding if invited. If the answer is yes, then they should be on your guest list.

(Photo: Marcin Cymmer Photography)

If it’s the guest count limitations that you’re having to work around, there’s great news. The Estate’s gorgeous open ballroom allows for many variations of floor plans that can accommodate a guest count up to 250 people! Hopefully, The Estate’s ability to host events ranging from small to large groups can allow you more breathing room in the curation of your guest list.

Ultimately, your wedding, your rules!